Practical Ways To Find Fulfillment As A Single

It can be so hard to feel fulfilled when you feel like something is missing. The best way to get around that is to learn to live a full life. This is a practical guide to finding fulfillment in your single life, not a spiritual one. I’m sure I don’t need to remind you about how important your personal walk with God is to your personal fulfillment. It is the foundation, however, I understand that after you figure out the spiritual part you may need some practical tools to actually do it. I like to think of the spiritual walk as the faith part and the practical as the work because after all faith without works is dead right?

 I think creating a full life is the key to fulfillment. If you build a life that you love you will spend less time missing what you don’t have. When were busy living we are less likely to believe were lacking. So, I encourage you to look at what you need to be happy outside of a husband and build your life around that. Below is how I’m creating a fulfilling life and some things you can try as well:

1.     Fill your life with activities that you love. What are your hobbies? What would you do for free? Do those things. This is the time to be involved. You never know who you might meet. Volunteer to help someone. Spend your time learning a new language. Travel with friends to see the world. I just recently Started horseback riding. It’s something I’ve always wanted to do and I have the time so I thought why not? I’m going to be intentional about building a life I love.

2.     Find people that are traveling the single journey with you. That has been the biggest thing that has saved me. Having someone to discuss the highs and lows of this single journey with makes all the difference. I talk all the time with my single friends and I cannot tell you how much easier it was to share my feelings with someone that I knew could relate. You could even go a step further and create a reoccurring girls’ night out as a way to celebrate your singleness.

3.     Find a worthy cause to give your time to. Give back. Perhaps you can volunteer in a sorority and do community service. Maybe you make it a point to connect other people with careers that will help them. Giving back can look more than one way. Have you ever given your time to something or someone and felt bad? Nope, you haven’t. When you give there is no way you can be empty. You will have joy just by helping someone else.

 These keys to fulfillment will help to keep you firmly rooted when you finally do enter into a relationship. When you create a full life you’re not going to be a drain to your husband because you have your own life and are intentional about creating your own happiness. You’re also going to be much more interesting as a person and more well rounded. I hear so many women say that they lose themselves in being a wife and a mom. Having a core group of friends and activities/ hobbies that you can carry into marriage will remind you that you are more than a wife and a mother.