It's the Little Things...

So often we are so surprised when something seemingly small escalates into something big. This is typically how the conversation goes… “all I said was…” and then he said that “I’m not supportive.” This has been me on so many occasions. In my mind, when something went left in my relationships I had no idea how we arrived there. However, I can look back and see where one small comment here, and another there caused people to feel a certain way.  Small things compound and turn into big things.

The bible says it’s the little fox that spoils the vine (Song of Solomon 2:15)… It’s the little decisions over and over again that give way to the big things. It’s the daily choices that make your life. For example, I can be overly critical sometimes and I made the choice to give voice to that. Thessalonians 5:11 says to build up one another. Well, by always having an opinion, especially in relationships I was doing the complete opposite. However, in my mind they were just little comments. I thought that I was helping people to improve or grow and really I was offending them.  My choice to always express my opinion was the little fox that was spoiling my vine.

The devil is crafty and if you allow him to convince you that the small decisions you make don’t matter, you will look up and suddenly those things will be the only things that matter. Whatever way that he can cause division in relationships, he will try. Unfortunately, he doesn’t have to try very hard because we never see the small offenses as issues when commit them, but when they are felt/received they are always enough to make a person want to walk away from the relationship. How many times have you heard people tell you that they are divorced and you discover it is over something very small? Termites are small in size but they can completely destroy a house. Little arguments and comments can erode a relationship.  Be on guard. We always want to protect our relationships from outside influences, but it is equally important to protect it from the inside influences as well. Those small issues that arise can eventually be catastrophic. What little foxes are spoiling your vine and what do you need to catch and get rid of in your life?